Gianna’s Gem: Good. Great. Exceptional. The Spectrum That Separates Forgettable Events from the Ones No One Stops Talking About.

Hi there,

A few weeks ago, I ran into someone I hadn’t seen since a conference we’d both attended two years prior. Before I could even say hello, she grabbed my arm and said: “I still think about that event…I’ve never felt so transformed and inspired…”

That dinner didn’t have a celebrity chef. It didn’t have the most expensive swag or even an A list speaker. What it had was intention. A format for engagement that cracked people open. Conversations intentionally created in settings intimately enough that nobody could hide behind small talk.

It got me thinking about the spectrum that separates events that run logistically smoothly from events that transform people. Because these are not the same thing…and conflating them is the most common mistake I see in this industry.

After 23+ years designing experiences for F500 companies, Prominent VC’s, startups, celebrities, and even high profile social organizations, here’s how I think about the three tiers of event excellence, and why the leap from one to the next has almost nothing to do with budget.

TIER ONE  —  A GOOD EVENT  

A good event is one that delivers on its promise. The logistics run smoothly. Registration is frictionless. The branding is polished. The food is good. If not memorable, still nothing anyone is complaining about. The content is relevant. The speakers show up prepared. Attendees leave feeling that their time was respected and their expectations were met.

This is harder than it sounds, and I mean that sincerely. Executing a smooth, well-run event is a real skill and achievement, especially for earlier stage companies and organizations with less experience. Most events don’t even clear this bar. 

But “good” has a ceiling, and it sounds like this: “It was a really well-organized conference.” Perfectly fine. AKA, quietly forgettable.

Think of the annual industry conference you attend every year because it’s a good use of your time. You learn something. You see familiar faces. The panels are solid. You check your emails at lunch. You’re glad you went. You’ve already forgotten 80% of it by Thursday.

Gianna's Gem: ‘Good’ means you delivered what you promised. Good is required. But good alone is not enough.

What Good Looks Like in Practice

• A product launch where every attendee leaves with a clear understanding of what was announced, why it matters, and what to do next. The AV worked. The Q&A was tight. The catering was fresh.

• A team off-site with a clear agenda, a few strong facilitators, and outcomes your team actually reference months later. No one got stuck at a flip chart for four hours.

• A charity gala with a compelling honoree, a clean program that runs on time, and a room full of people who feel good about the organization they’re supporting.

 TIER TWO  —  A GREAT EVENT  

A great event does everything a good event does, and then it surprises you. There are moments of genuine delight that you didn’t see coming. The food isn’t just good; it tells a story; maybe a local chef is presenting it, maybe there’s a live station that makes you feel like you’re somewhere magical. The content features a voice or perspective you genuinely couldn’t access elsewhere. There’s an experiential element that makes the event feel less like an event and more like an experience.

Great events create moments people photograph and share. They produce the stories that start with “you would not believe what happened at…” The production value might not be higher, but the thoughtfulness absolutely is. Someone cared enough to ask: what would make this feel different?

The leap from good to great is almost never about budget. It’s about a handful of deliberate choices, one unexpected element, one piece of content that earns an audible reaction, one moment where the room comes alive in a way that wasn’t on the agenda.

Gianna's Gem: Great events don’t happen by accident. They happen when a planner makes at least one decision that goes beyond function and into feeling. One surprise. One moment of genuine delight. That’s the difference.

What Great Looks Like in Practice

• A customer summit where, after a full day of product content, guests are walked through a black curtain and into a private rooftop reception with a jazz trio, a custom cocktail designed around the company’s core product, and a surprise element that inspired awe or delight. Nobody expected it. Everyone talked about it for months.

• A women’s leadership conference where surprise celebrity guests are announced only as “a couple of speakers you might recognize”,  and deliver the most energizing closing keynote of the year. The room was electric. Attendance at the closing session was 100%.

• A company off-site where the evening activity is a private chef’s table dinner where guests made their own mozzarella before sitting down to eat it, and a CMO later told the planner it was the most authentic joy she’d felt at a work event in years.

• A small dinner where phones are collected in green satin bags at the door, a detail announced in advance so guests arrive expecting and welcoming the ritual. The quality of conversation that follows? Nothing a slide deck could replicate.

TIER THREE  —  AN EXCEPTIONAL EVENT  

This is the rarest tier, and the hardest to engineer… but 100% worth chasing. An exceptional event doesn’t just deliver value or create delight. It changes people. Attendees leave feeling that something shifted inside them; a belief updated, a fear released, a connection formed that will outlast the event by years.

Exceptional events produce what I call the triple response: metamorphosis, catharsis, and inspired action. People don’t just feel good, they feel moved to do something differently. They meet someone who becomes a lifelong collaborator, a best friend, a mentor. They hear something that reframes a problem they’ve been stuck on for years. They experience a moment of such deep connection with the people around them that they still feel it months later… the way you feel moved by a piece of music long after the notes have stopped (I feel this now after an evening at SF Jazz last night where a rendition of “Blackbird” moved me to tears)..

The most important thing I can tell you about exceptional events is this: they are not purchased. No amount of production budget can manufacture emotional resonance. What creates it is almost always something human and often something small; a question posed with genuine courage, a format that invites vulnerability, a room curated with enough intentionality that the right people find each other almost inevitably.

Gianna's Gem: Exceptional events are not produced, they are intentionally designed. The difference is this: production fills a room. Design changes what happens inside people who are in it. One is logistics. The other is experience design.

What Exceptional Looks Like in Practice

• A Jeffersonian-style dinner for 20 marketing leaders where a single question, “What have you built that you’re most afraid of losing?”  produces  conversation so real that three attendees exchange numbers with strangers who will become their closest peers. Cost: a private room, a prix-fixe menu, and one brave question plus intentional table seating and audience “warm up”.

• A leadership retreat where an unscripted moment, a founder sharing candidly the hardest year of the company (and his) life, gives every executive in the room permission to be honest about their own fears and catharsis that they aren’t alone. The trust built in that hour does more for team cohesion than any structured exercise ever could. It’s done with discretion, Chatham House Rules, and only after attendees have been tended to in a way that they are out of “fight or fight” and relaxed into parasympathetic calm and can properly engage and let their guard down.

• A sunrise canoe experience in Hawaii where a guide sounds a conch and invites guests to paddle in silence as the island comes alive around them. A child on that trip still talks about it years later. The “event” cost less than Disneyland, but creates a shared, once in a life time experience that is unique and memorable.

• A women’s summit where, in the final hour, each attendee writes one thing they are releasing, a fear, a habit, a story they’ve told themselves, and reads it aloud to the group, or writes it in a book to be shared with another attendee at random. Nobody cried alone. Everyone left lighter feeing heard and part of a community.

The Budget Myth

I want to address the assumption that lives underneath almost every conversation I have with event planners and marketing teams: that exceptional requires expensive.

It does not. Full stop.

The most powerful thing that has ever happened in a room I’ve designed was a question. A prompt written on a card. A moment of deliberate silence and reflection or meditation in nature. None of these cost a thing. What they required was courage; the courage to go beyond the agenda, to make space for something real, to trust that your attendees are capable of more than polite applause and a positive NPS score.

What separates the tiers is not money, it’s intention. It’s the planner who asks not just what will happen at this event, but how do I want people to feel when they leave? And then designs backward from that feeling with everything they have, including, and especially, the small gestures that cost nothing but attention and human authenticity.

A handwritten welcome note. A customized mini-bar in the room. A surprise that fits your guests like it was made for them, because it was. The decision to seat two people together who didn’t know they needed to meet each other but were introduced intentionally.

These are the things that move events from good to great to exceptional. And every single one of them is available to you at every budget level.

Your attendees don’t remember the linens, or the florals. In the words of Maya Angelou, they remember how you made them feel. 

Design for the feeling, and everything else follows.

You’ve got this.

XX,

Gianna

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Gianna Gaudini is an event strategist, advisor, and author of the Amazon bestselling book The Art of Event Planning. She’s held leadership roles at Google, AWS, SoftBank Vision Fund, and Airtable, creating unforgettable experiences that drive business results. For more insights on creating exceptional events and experiences, visit GiannaGaudini.com or connect with her on LinkedIn.